When you make mistakes with collocations, the other person will usually understand you – but your English won’t sound “natural” – because it’s different from the way a native speaker would say it.

Although it’s possible to communicate successfully with incorrect collocations, using collocations correctly can help you speak more fluently. We suggest completing one lesson in this book per day, but of course you can study at your own pace. 

Let's begin our study of collocations by learning some common expressions about the family.

You can use a family tree to diagram the relationships among your family members. A person who is related to you by a long series of connections can be called a distant relative.

If you're lucky, you have a loving family or a close-knit family - these expressions refer to a family that has good relationships, where everyone loves each other and helps each other. If you were raised in a loving family, then you probably had a carefree childhood - that means you had nothing to worry about when you were young.

On the other hand, a family in which the relationships are bad or unhealthy can be called a dysfunctional family. If the children experience abuse, poverty, or problems with the law, we can say they had a troubled childhood.

Perhaps the parents went through a bitter divorce - that means a separation in which there were bad/angry feelings between the husband and wife. It's also possible to have a messy divorce, with a prolonged legal battle involving lots of conflicts about the separation of the former couple's assets (money and possessions). The decisions about the separation of assets are made in the divorce settlement. A family in which there are divorces or separations is sometimes called a broken home.

Sometimes the mother and father fight over custody of the children - that refers to who has the primary responsibility of caring for the kids. A judge can grant joint custody - that means the exhusband and ex-wife share the responsibility - or sole custody to only one parent. For example, a judge might award sole custody to the mother, and the father has to pay child support - regular payments to help with expenses for the kids.

If it was a mutual divorce/separation - that means the ex-husband and ex-wife agreed to separate without fighting - then they will probably stay on good terms with each other (meaning to have a polite relationship without conflicts).

If a woman gets pregnant without being married or in a relationship, then she will become a single mother. Some women in this situation choose to have an abortion, and others prefer to give the baby up for adoption. The time when the baby is planned to arrive is called the due date - you can also say the baby is due in mid-October, for example.

After the woman has the baby (or gives birth to the baby), the baby is given to the adoptive parents, who will raise the child or bring up the child as if it was their own. Sometimes, when the adopted child is older, he or she tries to find their birth mother (biological mother).

Quiz

Choose the best word to complete each sentence:

1. A friend of mine gave / took / went birth to her son at home with the help of a nurse.

2. A number of the kids in my classroom come from broken / damaged / hurt homes.

3. After a hostile / cruel / bitter divorce from his wife of 20 years, the actor married a woman young enough to be his daughter.

4. I see my excepted / expanded / extended family once a year, during our annual family vacation.

5. I was raised in a very joyful / loving / tender family, in which everyone helped each other.

6. I was created / grown / raised by my grandparents after my parents passed away.

7. I'm on good friends / relations / terms with all my former boyfriends.

8. John had a carefree / careful / careless childhood, growing up with happily married parents and three brothers.

9. Many women regret giving / having / taking an abortion years afterwards.

10. My aunt's going through a messy / sloppy / untidy divorce; she's paying a fortune in legal fees.

11. My husband doesn't get along with a few of my family people / individuals / members.

12. Although my salary is low, I get child assistance / provision / support from my ex-husband.

13. My sister got / had / made pregnant immediately after she got married.

14. My son is making a diagram of our family roots / tree / web for a school project.

15. My wife is pregnant with twins. They're come / due / here in February.

16. Sally was granted sole custody / guardian / keeping of the children from her first marriage.

17. Teenagers who had a distressed / troubled / worsened childhood often have behavior problems in school.

18. The celebrity wrote a book about his debilitated / defective / dysfunctional family.

19. The divorce contract / reimbursement / settlement awarded the wife $500,000.

20. There are four people in my close / immediate / neighboring family.

21. They have three biological children and two adopted / adoptive / adopting children.